Ask Dr. Jay: Sex Headaches
img via jane
Hey Dr. Jay,
This is kind of an awkward question. Here's some backstory. I was with a girl at a party and she was giving me a handjob, and about halfway through I got this really bad headache in the back of my head. I let her finish because I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but it got worse as she continued. I took some Tylenol and let it go away. A couple days later, I was jerking off and the same thing happened. I haven't done it since and I'm wondering if this is a big deal and i need to go to a doctor. I don't live with my dad and obviously telling my mom about such events would be really awkward...and since id need her to go to the doctor(insurance), I'd rather not bring it up unless it could seriously be a problem. Hope you can answer this and not think its a joke or anything. Thanks!
I can definitely understand your concern. Only a small minority of people really enjoy severe pain and orgasms together as one. Most of us, however, like things to be all pleasant when stuff like orgasms happen. Horrible headaches when she's one-armed skiing on ya would definitely cause some concern. And thank you for asking me this kind of question. It's tough being out there all alone without easy access to someone who can help.
So...it sounds like you had the infamous sex headache. Contrary to what you may think, you're not alone - about 1% of all people experience a sex headache at some point in their life. It could have also been a simple neck muscle spasm that feels like a bad headache in the back of your head. Things tend to get tense in these situations and it's easy to pull some muscles. You should definitely see a doctor, especially since it sounds like it's affecting your sex life and it was your first time having such a headache. You could simply tell your mom that you've just been having a lot of headaches lately. You don't have to go into all the steamy details. If she needs to go with you, just ask her to step out of the room for a bit while you talk to your doctor privately. You're plenty old enough to ask your mom for a little privacy. If you'd like, come see us at Hello Health on Berry between N 7th and 8th. We're in the neighborhood and we'd be happy to help you sort this out.
To write your own question to Dr. Jay, send an email to askdrjay@freewilliamsburg.com!



